JaybirdNWA said...
I am sorry to hear that you feel responsible for your daughter having Ds. If you read enough of the blogs and forums on here, you will realize that children with Ds come to parents of all ages. I realize that this feeling is something that all parents of Ds experience at different times in the process, my wife and I included. But hopefully we all get to the point where we realize that this child is a gift from God for a purpose and she/he deserves the best that we can give as parents. I hope you and your family had a great Christmas.
Ruby's Mom says.....
I was just sharing my experience and how I felt while I was in the hospital.I actually knew some about DS before I had Ruby ,what causes it and the risks for different age women,how children with DS can have heart problems.A girl I grew up with had a son with DS when she was 20 yrs old.
I share my feelings here for myself, it is a kind of therapy for me, but I also share them so other Moms of babies with DS don't feel alone in some of the feelings they may have. Moms tend to blame themselves when things go wrong with their children,we think what could I have done differently,is it my fault? I have had these feelings when I have had a miscarriage and when my first daughter was born premature.
Ps 127:3
Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
I believe all of my children are a gift from God.My second son's name means, gift of God.
My Ruby is very special to me.I love her with all of my being. As soon as I found out she had DS I started praying for God to help me to be the best parent I can be for Ruby,for Him to help me know how to care for her.
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When things don't go the way we expect it is human nature to assign blame. Whether you blame yourself or your spouse or even God. In the end it is what it is. As time goes by and as you grow and believe your going to you'll be just fine. :)
Thank you so much for asking about my Dad. He is doing ok. We are waiting for his surgery date. Looks like it will be In January. Please pray they can remove the Aneurysm safely. For now he seems happy and his breathing is way better since they switched his Meds. We had a nice Christmas. Hope you did too!
Cheryl, I feel quite a lot of guilt over Finn having DS. Well, maybe the feelings of guilt have faded into just a feeling of responsibility . . . I know that women of all ages bear children with DS, but I made a conscious decision to become pregnant at age 40 - how could I not feel responsible? And there is a part of me that longs to have another baby, but the truth is, no matter how blessed I feel by Finn and how great my love for him, if I had another baby at my age, wouldn't I just be asking for trouble?
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